I do not expect hyped, glamorized, overnight relationships between couples in Hollyweird to last past the next edition of People magazine. I do not expect that “chemistry” between co-stars to make to the serial movie. Truthfully, I did not expect Bill and Hillary to still be together.
However, Al and Tipper Gore seemed to have a solid foundation upon which their marriage was based and had lasted. They definitely knew each other, they were high school sweethearts. They had struggled and survived a child’s death–together. They had been on the political road through glorious victories and devastating defeat. Nobel Prizes and children’s bake sales at school. That genuine? kiss and I’m sure days of not speaking at all — after all they were married for 40 lonnnnng years! Keep it real. Growing apart? What is that even supposed to mean?
Their plans to divorce got me to thinking about Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde and me. On June 26 we will celebrate? our 39th wedding anniversary. BTW: We dated for 4 years prior to marriage, maybe we were slow learners but we married anyhow. What has kept us together? What keeps us from separating? Well . . .
- We think and act as if we know each other although it amazes me that we can still surprise each other.
- We probably could have split long ago except Dr. Jekyll, Mr. Hyde and I can never ever come to a consensus!
- We still make plans for new adventures — around the world.
- We function well together, when and if it is absolutely necessary.
- We know how to function independently, when and if it is absolutely necessary.
- We have 4 lovely children–choke, choke, gag, gag–lol
- We have 3 wonderful grandchildren–for real doh! However, we do admit to a few mistakes raising their silly a_s parents.
- We insure our staying together by my continuing to work while Dr. Jekyll and/Mr. Hyde are in their 11th year of retirement. (Don’t say “ooh” or “ouch”. This really works well!)
I know. You were expecting words like: love, cherish, adore, value, trust, respect, blah, blah, blah — that’s in there somewhere, as well. But do notice that each statement started with WE. Neither of us signed up to do this alone or until we “grew” to not needing the other. Don’t groan but we actually complement the other. Can’t believe I said that, much less I never thought I’d put that in writing.
If your growth takes you on two seperate-never-to-converge paths maybe you should go. This scenario leads me to believe they’ve just been waiting for a while for a good time to call it quits.
Believe me, if you want to stay together, you will stay together ’til doth part y’all. I’m in this for the long haul!